Well you just have to say it so grammatical wrong, that the following lawsuit can’t determine without doubt which adjectives/adverbs belong to the subject, the verb or the object.
Just be playful with it and most people accept it. Simple card-tricks where you make sure the other person get a card that has the compliment written on it tends to work like magic.
To be honest, it’s generally not appropriate to compliment a co-worker unless you have that kind of friendship.
Rule of thumb – If you wouldn’t say it to a male co-worker, don’t say it to a female co-worker. Obviously your mileage may vary, and it depends on your workplace, but this is actually a seriously complex issue far beyond what I think most folks realize.
Women are subject to nearly-constant unwanted attention to their appearance, and comments to that effect. It might just be a better idea to keep your mouth shut.
But if you go out of your way to dress up, is it not true that genuine compliments acknowledging it are appreciated, regardless of gender? I mean, yeah, there’s a big difference between “that’s a really pretty dress” and “your tits look fantastic today”, but with just a modicum of common sense, you should be able to avoid saying anything sexual.
A pretty woman once told me she felt out of shape, and I told her (truthfully) that she was beautiful. She laughed it off, telling me that I was very funny.
I asked her what was so funny about me telling her that she was beautiful, and she said it was because that wasn’t what you normally tell people.
So there you go. You tell a beautiful woman she’s beautiful and she’ll laugh it off in denial. (Or take it the wrong way. You just can’t win on this one.)
Reminds me of the quote:
Tell a man there are a billions of stars in the universe, and he’ll believe you. But tell him a bench has wet paint and he’ll have to touch it before he can believe you.
How can it be that men are the ones getting sued for sexual harassment for looking at a beautiful women, when she was the one that put on half a dress?
The problem with compliments on appearance are if that’s the only (or most frequent) affirmation given. I try to look nice at work, and I’m always happy when my boss notices that and remarks on it. He’s clearly not hitting on me, and he compliments my work far more often.
On the other hand, I also hate it when I feel like I have to be neutered somehow for the workplace (or anywhere else). So I appreciate the acknowledgement that I’m feminine, and not just a human worker bee.
Best compliment I ever heard of was a man on the street who said, as he passed a very pregnant woman who was having a bad day, “I bet you’re gonna have a pretty baby.” It made her day. The thing is, he kept walking and obviously wasn’t hitting on her. It’s trickier with co-workers whom you’re going to see day after day.
But if you get the chance to say that to a pregnant stranger (and keep walking), go ahead. Just be SURE she’s really pregnant, or it will have the opposite of the intended uplifting effect.
“I like your dress,” is acceptable. “I like how you look in that dress,” is not. Basically, you’re not supposed to comment on someone’s body in the work place. The first compliment is aimed toward the dress (and is a compliment on the wearer’s taste) whereas the second one is aimed toward the body in the dress and is therefore inappropriate even if you didn’t say “that dress brings out the curve of your ass.”
I’m a truck driver. Any women in my profession know that they’re going to get complimented/wolf-whistled at/ogled/hit on (maybe even with real rocks)/what have you. It’d almost be a sexual harassment lawsuit if you don’t.
That being said, I usually don’t bother. I’m not looking for a relationship, and even saying “hi” to some people (not just women, BTW) is tantamount to your agreeing to marry them…..
Also, that comic made me lol, specifically the last panel…..
Just like women in the military know that they’re going to get sexually assaulted, right? Even if you’re not contributing to a hostile or uncomfortable or unsafe work environment for women yourself, it’s disheartening to see someone defending such actions as just the way things are.
I agree with Chuck. Just because you didn’t do it, still makes you an accomplice because you didn’t stop it and knew the harassment was ongoing. It’s like the vatican scandals, until people start rejecting, scolding, and admonishing that type of behaviour, it’ll persist or even flourish and sexual harassment for both genders by both genders is despicable.
There was a married creep that hit on every woman who worked there under the age of say 45…except me. I was slightly offended. lol, didn’t blame him, but still slightly offended
Again, all these comments are just convincing me the best thing to do is hide in your home until they perfect cryogenics, freeze yourself until they perfect cyborg technology, then become an immortal robot and fly off into space.
Actually, boys are lucky. THEY ARE ACTUALLY SOCIALLY ALLOWED TO SAY FEMALES LOOK GOOD! Girls on the other hand, we can’t say “You look so handsome, Bob.” or whatever. They have to accept we like THEM first.
On the other hand, saying “Nice tie.” to a male colleague is generally understood to be an insult.
I heard that yoda lingo somewhat helps.
” looking gorgeous you are, this lovely morning”
Well you just have to say it so grammatical wrong, that the following lawsuit can’t determine without doubt which adjectives/adverbs belong to the subject, the verb or the object.
See, it’s working so good already!
Just be playful with it and most people accept it. Simple card-tricks where you make sure the other person get a card that has the compliment written on it tends to work like magic.
I talk like panel three to everyone! Just for… funny… being..
The last panel just killed me today! XD
Very similiar to the subtle technique I used in the third grade.
To be honest, it’s generally not appropriate to compliment a co-worker unless you have that kind of friendship.
Rule of thumb – If you wouldn’t say it to a male co-worker, don’t say it to a female co-worker. Obviously your mileage may vary, and it depends on your workplace, but this is actually a seriously complex issue far beyond what I think most folks realize.
Women are subject to nearly-constant unwanted attention to their appearance, and comments to that effect. It might just be a better idea to keep your mouth shut.
But if you go out of your way to dress up, is it not true that genuine compliments acknowledging it are appreciated, regardless of gender? I mean, yeah, there’s a big difference between “that’s a really pretty dress” and “your tits look fantastic today”, but with just a modicum of common sense, you should be able to avoid saying anything sexual.
I’d say it’s probably *attractive* women who have this problem. I never get complimented lol.
wow. you’re an asshole
I’m a software developer so I’m required by contract to glare and make angry animal noises at any nearby attractive females…
I love how he’s hiding behind the filing cabinet in the first panel.
Oh, and Adam…this comic makes my eye happiness levels go straight up!
A pretty woman once told me she felt out of shape, and I told her (truthfully) that she was beautiful. She laughed it off, telling me that I was very funny.
I asked her what was so funny about me telling her that she was beautiful, and she said it was because that wasn’t what you normally tell people.
So there you go. You tell a beautiful woman she’s beautiful and she’ll laugh it off in denial. (Or take it the wrong way. You just can’t win on this one.)
Reminds me of the quote:
Tell a man there are a billions of stars in the universe, and he’ll believe you. But tell him a bench has wet paint and he’ll have to touch it before he can believe you.
I find I generally stutter like a mental patient in the manner of Billy from “One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest.”
Billy: You got b-b-b-beautiful hair.
Girl: Thank you.
Billy: And you got…
…b-b-b-b-beautiful eyes.
Girl: Thank you.
—–
SMOOOV!
How can it be that men are the ones getting sued for sexual harassment for looking at a beautiful women, when she was the one that put on half a dress?
The problem with compliments on appearance are if that’s the only (or most frequent) affirmation given. I try to look nice at work, and I’m always happy when my boss notices that and remarks on it. He’s clearly not hitting on me, and he compliments my work far more often.
On the other hand, I also hate it when I feel like I have to be neutered somehow for the workplace (or anywhere else). So I appreciate the acknowledgement that I’m feminine, and not just a human worker bee.
Best compliment I ever heard of was a man on the street who said, as he passed a very pregnant woman who was having a bad day, “I bet you’re gonna have a pretty baby.” It made her day. The thing is, he kept walking and obviously wasn’t hitting on her. It’s trickier with co-workers whom you’re going to see day after day.
But if you get the chance to say that to a pregnant stranger (and keep walking), go ahead. Just be SURE she’s really pregnant, or it will have the opposite of the intended uplifting effect.
“I like your dress,” is acceptable. “I like how you look in that dress,” is not. Basically, you’re not supposed to comment on someone’s body in the work place. The first compliment is aimed toward the dress (and is a compliment on the wearer’s taste) whereas the second one is aimed toward the body in the dress and is therefore inappropriate even if you didn’t say “that dress brings out the curve of your ass.”
I’m a truck driver. Any women in my profession know that they’re going to get complimented/wolf-whistled at/ogled/hit on (maybe even with real rocks)/what have you. It’d almost be a sexual harassment lawsuit if you don’t.
That being said, I usually don’t bother. I’m not looking for a relationship, and even saying “hi” to some people (not just women, BTW) is tantamount to your agreeing to marry them…..
Also, that comic made me lol, specifically the last panel…..
Just like women in the military know that they’re going to get sexually assaulted, right? Even if you’re not contributing to a hostile or uncomfortable or unsafe work environment for women yourself, it’s disheartening to see someone defending such actions as just the way things are.
I agree with Chuck. Just because you didn’t do it, still makes you an accomplice because you didn’t stop it and knew the harassment was ongoing. It’s like the vatican scandals, until people start rejecting, scolding, and admonishing that type of behaviour, it’ll persist or even flourish and sexual harassment for both genders by both genders is despicable.
There was a married creep that hit on every woman who worked there under the age of say 45…except me. I was slightly offended. lol, didn’t blame him, but still slightly offended
That last panel SLAYED me, I was laughing so hard XD
GeezJustSay”YouLookNice”\
Again, all these comments are just convincing me the best thing to do is hide in your home until they perfect cryogenics, freeze yourself until they perfect cyborg technology, then become an immortal robot and fly off into space.
It just seems so much easier…
So you’ve acquired basic Troll courtship ritual knowledge?
Actually, boys are lucky. THEY ARE ACTUALLY SOCIALLY ALLOWED TO SAY FEMALES LOOK GOOD! Girls on the other hand, we can’t say “You look so handsome, Bob.” or whatever. They have to accept we like THEM first.